Would you like to live a great love? Few people would answer "no" to that question, would they? Many people would love to live a great love, but the truth that few tell is that in most cases, when the relationship comes to an end, getting over the heartbreak feeling is too difficult.

And this can get even worse if you are not the person who ended the relationship, but the one who had to hear that it is the end. Maybe what makes many people get stuck in this is just thinking about getting over it, about leaving it behind, about forgetting, when maybe the best thing to do is to deal with the end and feel it, even if it hurts, for it to be true, like love.

They still haven't invented a remedy that can cure a broken heart, but we have prepared some tips that can be very valuable not only for this moment of pain, but also of a lot of growth and self-knowledge:

1. don't exchange one love for another

"The best way to forget a great love is with another great love" ... Most likely you will end up mixing your feelings for your previous partner with your feelings for the person who has just entered your life, making a bigger mess of things.

And in this triangle that you have formed to make up for your hurt or need, it is very likely that you will get hurt even more, and that you will end up hurting this new love, because you are still stuck in the past. So be very cautious about getting involved with someone again. Respect your time and don't pressure yourself into a new relationship.

If love really is knocking at your door and you are grieving for someone who has left, perhaps an honest conversation with this new love would be good. Play fair, tell the truth, talk about still being hurt, and ask the person to be patient. With dialogue and care, everything can work out.

2. avoid stalking

If you don't have access to your now former great love in person, you may end up succumbing to the temptation to stalking, which can be very bad, even in the long run, since there are people who stalk ex-boyfriends even years after the breakup and being in a new relationship.

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Besides being difficult to leave someone in the past if you keep consuming content related to that person in the present, remember that social networks show a very distorted cut of reality. So that happiness of the ex-partner on the networks, while you cry of broken heart at home, may not be so real.

Remember that if the relationship has ended Keeping yourself interested in another person can bring nothing but suffering.

3. don't feed guilt

Fueled as we have been by the idea of "happily ever after" and the perfect couples from books, series and movies, seeing a relationship come to an end, especially if it is a long relationship or even a marriage, can come with a sense of frustration, of having failed at something.

Get rid of it as soon as possible. You probably know cases of people who made a lot of mistakes with their partners and still the relationship healed and rebuilt itself, right? You see, making mistakes is not synonymous with the end of a relationship. So even if you have made mistakes, don't blame yourself, because we all make mistakes and your partner probably made mistakes with you too. Not every relationship comes to an end because someone made a mistake.

When you think about everything rationally and find no real reason to feel guilt or just little things, then you should get rid of this guilt that makes no sense. Relationships are a two-way construction, so don't blame yourself for bringing to an end something that needed the care of both of you.

4. turn to yourself

Who were you before this great love appeared in your life? What did you like to do? What hobbies or passions have you left behind? What experiences would you like to have that were limited by the relationship?

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All these questions can help you build a new path after the relationship ends, because they help you get in touch with yourself and your essence. Many times, immersed as we are in a relationship, we leave along the way little pieces of ourselves, of our individuality.

The moment the relationship comes to an end, therefore, it is time to pick up those little pieces that were left behind and build a new version of yourself. Regardless of how deeply you were involved in that great love, you are still you, an individual, so explore who you are.

5. ask for help

If you are having trouble overcoming, getting used to, or going through this time of pain and so many new beginnings and reconstructions alone, ask for help. Those who recognize that they don't have the strength to overcome adversity are not weak, but the opposite: very strong for having the courage to recognize their limitations.

It is very important to have a support network formed by friends, friends and family, who will help you get through this moment, show you how much you are, yes, loved and an amazing person, but seeking professional help is very helpful and may even prove necessary.

When you begin therapy with a psychologist, find an environment there that is free of judgment and the possibility of feeling ashamed for any reason whatsoever, so don't be afraid, afraid or ashamed to acknowledge that talking to someone is essential at this time.

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Bonus Tip: It is normal, when seeing a great love come to an end, to feel attached to it, hoping that the relationship will come back. Don't get attached to it, in fact, don't even think about it. This doesn't mean that you need to exclude the possibility of one day being with your loved one again, it just means that right now, in this moment, you need to heal and find yourself before you think about being with someone else.

There is no hell that lasts forever, so know that you will come out of it. You are not a sad person, much less a bad person or a person who deserves to suffer. You are just going through a negative moment and you will come out of it much stronger, mature and aware of the wonderful person you are!