We usually use this term when we move away from our partner by choice, "the other" has chosen to move away from us, or even it was a common decision. Usually this happens in love relationships, but not necessarily only in this case.

Today I think that this negative vision that I had, was part of my immaturity to see relationships in a romantic way. Romantic not in the sense of demonstrations of affection in the most varied forms, but romantic in the sense of thinking that a couple that really loves each other must always be together.

And this is not true, because how many times have I myself not needed a time out in my life?! To take time out from children, time out from parents, time out from certain friendships, even time out from best friends, siblings, in short! We always need time out; if we don't do this, if we don't step back sometimes, life does this to us. Because this step back is necessary for human evolution in order to take time out.We have lived most of our lives in a frantic rush, without stopping to feel what is really happening to us and around us. Just reacting to everything that comes our way every day. Often being unfair, often allowing our ego to take over. Unfair to ourselves too, not only to people, andthis "time" forces us somehow to think, feel, and intuit about the situations that have been and are being experienced, so we are able to have a more honest, more real, and - why not? - lighter view of the situations.

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So speaking now of love relationships, this "taking a break" of course has to be done respectfully to work; it is not an opportunity for infidelity or late nights; on the contrary, it is an opportunity to be introspective, maybe to see a therapist or a best friend, to let off steam, but mostly it is a time to listen to ourselves, to be silent. I also believe that we canto observe the lack (or not) that the other makes us, the positive and negative points of our relationship, the light and the shadow of our partner, and then choose or not to continue this relationship.

Regardless of this choice, when we move on it will be with much more lightness, certainty, love, and commitment to our choices.

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And then if we choose to remain as a couple, we will have a new reunion, much lighter and happier, because we will have a new look at ourselves and at that person who was chosen again - and this time chosen with so much presence, with less passion, but more love and certainty, to follow together in this adventure that is living.