Have you ever felt unable to engage sexually with someone or even to kiss a person without first feeling that there was a sentimental and emotional connection with them? Well, then you may be demisexual!

The themes involving gender, sexuality and sexual orientation are some of the ones that are undergoing the most progress and discoveries at the moment, especially in social networks, so it is common for us to get a little lost with so much news and, especially, with so many new words and concepts. But don't worry! We are here to help you. We have prepared an article with the objective ofexplain what demisexuality is, check it out!

What is demisexuality?

In short, demisexuals are people who only feel at ease to have sex or another affective relationship, or even feel the desire to do these things only with people with whom they already have an established relationship/emotional connection, that is, they are people who do not like/have difficulty/can not be guided only by physical and/or sexual attraction, so they need to create bonds with people with whom they already have a relationship/emotional connection.people before these desires manifest themselves.

Demisexuality is considered a sexual orientation, since it defines the way a person manifests (or not) his or her sexuality. Contrary to what was established some time ago, there are not only heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality as sexual orientations, but many other factors that can combine and influence each other in relation to one's sexuality. OneA person can, for example, be bisexual and demisexual, or heterosexual/homosexual and demisexual.

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Demisexuality, therefore, does not influence the type of person that a demisexual is attracted to, but the type of relationship that must be in place for sexual desire and attraction to manifest in it.

As for this, demisexuality, just like any other type of sexual orientation, is quite individual. There are demisexuals who need to talk and relate to people for months to feel sexual desire, there are demisexuals who feel desire after a brief conversation, there are demisexuals who take years for it, who need to hear certain words, be in certain environments or feelingspecific feelings to feel desire, among so many other multiple and diverse possibilities.

Semisexuality is sometimes used as a synonym for demisexuality, although infrequently.

What is asexuality?

Asexuality is an umbrella term that encompasses several types of sexual orientation and manifestations of sexuality. Strict asexuality is the absence of any sexual desire and willingness to have sex. Between strict asexuality and sexuality, however, there is what is called gray asexuality, which includes, for example, demisexuality.

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This gray asexuality is so known because it is a middle ground between sexuality (sexual desire driven by physical/emotional attraction) and strict asexuality (complete absence of sexual desire). People who fit into gray asexuality generally have sexual desire and a willingness to have sex, as long as certain circumstances or specifics are met. Other examples, forillustrate:

- Sapiosexuality: sapiosexuals are people for whom physical attraction has little or no importance when it comes to feeling desire, because what matters is the person's intelligence and intellectual capacity;

- Reciposexuality: a type of sexual orientation in which a person only feels desire when he or she first knows that the other person feels desire for him or her;

- Among many other possible types.

The demisexual flag

The LGBTQIA+ movement is known for its colorful flags, in which each color symbolizes a type of gender identity, sexual orientation, among other characteristics. Demisexuality, however, does not have its own flag, but it is common that when we talk about it, a flag with five stripes is used: two purple ones, at the bottom and at the top, two gray ones, below and above these purple ones, and onewhite in the middle.

The purple stripes refer to sexuality, that is, people who feel sexual desire and attraction for others based on their physical attraction and emotional attachment to them. The gray stripes are there to represent gray asexuality, that is, people who have sexual desires under certain circumstances or specificities. The white stripe, in the middle, represents asexualitystrict, that is, the complete absence of sexual desire.

What if I am demisexual?

Obviously, there is no problem. First of all, the more you know yourself, the more chances you have to find peace, tranquility and happiness about your gender and sexual orientation, but there is no rush in this process, because the way we see ourselves and how we manifest our desire and sexuality is always changing throughout life.

But if you feel that you can only feel physical attraction and sexual desire for a person when you feel that you are connected to them emotionally and that there is some kind of relationship already established between you, chances are that you are demisexual.

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This is not a diagnosis or a label that you should carry throughout your life, not least because the way you express your sexuality or feel sexually attracted to someone may change, but this information can be important for you to understand how you can best relate to someone and what you seek for your emotional and sexual life.

So, what do you think about demisexuality? Do you identify yourself with this sexual orientation? Remember: if you do, try to understand your sexuality as something individual, not based on a label. The important thing is that you are happy, including sexually! Try to know yourself and maintain a healthy relationship with yourself!